i just recently read a blog on bglh about dealing with type 4a/b/c hair. well, thats me! i have that tough to deal with hair. i think you just have to learn your hair and be aware of what it needs and doesn't need. my hair has been natural for a lil over a year now and the longer it gets i realize i no longer like my twist outs on the 1st day. i tend to like them the most on the 3rd day! weird i know, but i just like the thickness of it and how it looks.
i tend to wash my hair whenever it starts to feel dry, which is sometimes 5 days, sometimes 3 days, sometimes 7. i just listen to my hair when it communicates to me. thats very important to do! but as my hair grows, the more i love it! its starting to get huge!
i remember the days of my teeny weeny fro, and when i first went natural and the crazy comments i would get. i brushed it all of my shoulder and kept it pushing knowing that if i just wait it out i would begin to love it more and more. to those of you just starting to go natural, know that it is a growing process and it takes time. i just recently had an awwwww moment a couple days ago when i realized, geesh my hair is getting long! lol its hanging now and even after i wash it, its long! of course i deal with a ton of shrinkage, but i love my hair! and i have that hard to deal with type 4 hair.
dont give up ladies!